If you have recently been broken up with or have broken up with someone but have changed your mind, you might be considering trying to get them back. Believe it or not, there are ways to increase the likelihood that your ex will take you back, regardless of who broke up with whom. We've all heard the expression that success if the best revenge, and in terms of your ex, this also applies. Working on yourself is the first step you should take towards getting your ex back. The next step is by listening to your ex. Communication and listening skills are essential in successful relationships, so if you want to change your ex to your partner, listen to what they thought the reasons for the break up were.

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Work on Yourself

Breakups are not fun. They can leave you feeling raw and hurt. The emotions can be overwhelming, especially if you were the one broken up with. In that case, you should work on building yourself up and moving on. These steps are important to cultivate emotional health and intelligence, as well as having the added bonus of making you more attractive to your ex. Few things make people pause and wonder if they have made the right choice more than seeing your ex moving on successfully and happily right before their eyes. If you were the one who broke up with your ex and has changed your mind, you'll still need to be appealing to the person you've hurt, and following these steps to self-improvement can help in that situation as well.

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Communicate and Listen

As much as communication and listening skills are important in successful relationships, they will also be a huge part of success with trying to win an ex back. You will need to talk to your ex, see where there head and heart is at, find out if their feelings for you haven't changed. Ask them what improvements to the relationship they would need to see to consider coming back. Once you have listened to what they have to say, you need to back up your good intentions with action. Love is not what you say, it's what you do. So if your ex said they need more romance, don't just say you'll step up, actually plan a romantic outing or make a romantic gesture so they can see you mean what you say.

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If you want to turn breakups into relationships, you will need to do some work. First, you work on yourself to make sure you are entering into the new relationship fully and completely. Next, you will need to communicate and listen to your ex, soon to be a partner, to find out what they need to positively move forward.